You know the one. The one that holds yesterday and the day-before (and the day-before’s) clothes. The clothes that are too dirty for the closet, but too clean for the laundry.

That’s “The Dreaded Chair.”

The clothes on “The Dreaded Chair” are an eye sore, but they often feel easy to pick.

The problem is, you’re working with 10% of what you own, and the enjoyment of getting dressed is completely shot. It may be easy, but it’s not fun.

Plus, convenience does not lead to creativity.

Maybe you don’t consider yourself a creative person (Julia Cameron would fiercely disagree), but somewhere in there you know tbat you know how to have fun.

Here’s how you get to the fun part:

  • Throw the chair away. Move it, decorate it, turn it to face the wall. I don’t care.
    • Unless we’re an avid mediator, the chair’s facing a grand mountainscape, or we’re a breastfeeding/baby-holding person, bedroom chairs don’t actually get used.
  • Put the chair clothes back in the closet. If you’re wearing them again, they can’t be that dirty.
  • Reacquaint yourself with your clothes. Make friends again! How do I do that?
  • Train your brain to get comfortable puttin on one thing you rarely wear every morning. Not a whole outfit. Just one thing.
  • Notice the parts you’re enjoying and ignore the hard (yes, I’m a therapist who just told you to ignore your feelings – trust me – benign neglet works well here). 
  • And, as always, give yourself grace.