I was on a call with a long-time client—someone I love for her honesty and self-awareness. We were talking about what it really means to show up for our friends, our commitments, and ourselves, even when things feel heavy.
Before working with me, Yvette sometimes felt like she was only “half-showing up.” Her outfits didn’t inspire her, and when her mood was low, she lacked tools to lift it. Sometimes she even skipped events because she didn’t feel ready – so not only was she missing the opportunity to do something that could be fun and uplifting, she was missing the opportunity to show up for her community.
Showing up isn’t always about you and whether or not you’re happy or ready. It’s your responsibility to show up for your people. They need you.
So this is a little bit of a hot take on getting dressed for others instead of for you (scandalous, I know!).
The wardrobe I curated for Yvette is now her behind-the-scenes magic for showing up fully.
It’s not about dressing up for appearances. It’s about using clothes as a tool to support her mood and her choices—even in grief or overwhelm. She wasn’t pretending to feel great, she was choosing to show up just as she is— her clothes giving her the strength to do it.
I NEED THIS!
“If I wear something that’s cute, it projects that I feel better than I do inside. And that actually helps me to feel better.”
That’s the part that’s hard to explain unless you’ve felt it yourself: how what we wear doesn’t just affect how we look, but how we show up. A well-chosen outfit can help bridge the gap between where we are and where we want to be.
“Having clothes I feel good in means I don’t have the excuse not to go.”
Phew, that’s big.
There’s nothing superficial about putting care into your wardrobe or getting style support when it lifts you up and helps you re-engage with your life. Showing up with intention sends the message: I care to be here. That energy ripples out, it inspires others and lifts up everyone in the spaces you enter.
So use your closet to full-ass show up and if you don’t know how let me help you! Use the link below to get a free style consultation to talk about it – even if you’ve already taken advantage of this, you can do it again. 😘
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Keep Showing Up Lovies! 💛