I just poured over the photos from my 40th birthday party and OMG there are some beautiful butts! Check out the video here (Instagram) or here (Facebook) ????????????.

And, please, if you read anything else here, make it the testimonial at the bottom.

This email isn’t really about butts. But(t) butts are fun and a great example of parts of our bodies we’re taught to cover out of shame & embarrasment. 

I know not everyone showed up to the party confident about their booty, but I know most left did, because they’ve continued to tell me. 

People came with courage and pizzazz to bear their hearts & souls & tushies in a space full of other beautiful humans. 

My prayer for you is that you find people and spaces that are safe and loving enough to show up just as you are, bearing all your booty’s glory (or any other glory you want to share). 

Everyone’s telling me their 40’s were/are their best years yet! There really must be something special on this side of things. 

I’m grateful to have the privilege to have arrived.


*Note: This testimonial comes from the male’s perspective of how the patriarchy also oppresses men who aren’t big, tall & bulky. 

“It has taken so much work to get to a point where I’m not ashamed of my body anymore. I feel that in our society, people don’t often think about the insecurities, hopelessness, and shame that skinny people also feel. The amount of times I can remember being made fun of for being small, skinny, thin, I could rattle off a million. 

But I am proud to say that I’m different now, and am so grateful for my personal growth. I don’t feel ashamed of my body anymore and I’m even getting to the point where I think I’m pretty darn good lookin’ after all! ???? 

But wearing that bathing suit and feeling so comf0ortable at your party was yet another step in the good direction. So thank you for creating such a fun, loving, and safe space for everyone. It was SO much fun and I even wore that suit out to another event and people loved it!”

Richard ????


As I wrote you this, my “You Are Beautiful” reminder popped up. You should set this daily reminder too .